Smart Answers to Stupid Questions People Still Ask Me About My Mother
Most of us who have separated ourselves from the narcissistic, emotionally manipulative and abusive people in our lives have been asked some really dumb questions...
I do what I want.
Most of us who have separated ourselves from the narcissistic, emotionally manipulative and abusive people in our lives have been asked some really dumb questions...
Three years ago today I got into some major drama with my family over Pepper. Over the course of one week, she was abandoned when...
I’m not proud of this, but my dog is dog aggressive. I know. She’s so cute, you wouldn’t think it about her. It’s my secret...
Southern California doesn’t have a lot of visible frogs. Lizards and snakes, yes. Frogs no. So, even though I was the kind of child that...
I tried to be articulate about this, but in the end I just wasted 500 words on bullshit that is completely irrelevant to my context...
When we lived in LA, I went to a very nice dentist. She was a gentle, kind soul. The type of person who felt genuinely...
“Do you like living in this house?” I nodded, too busy crying to say anything intelligible. Even so, it was a lie. I hated living...
I was talking to friend Charles today and our conversation reminded me about the nine horrible months I spent working at the public library. I...
This is one of those posts I’ll write but not publish for six months. Because, of course, none of this actually happened and it is...
Five years ago, I switched to a credit union. It was the best decision I’ve ever made. I was originally a Washington Mutual customer, and...
Thanks to Timehop, I can now tell you exactly what I was tweeting about last year. Actually, I can tell you exactly what I was...
After attending the last ever free Last Thursdays (starting in 2015, vendors will have to apply and pay a fee in order to participate in...
I was minding my own damn business, walking my sweet, adorable dog, you guys know Pepper, but in case you don’t, here’s a refresher: I...
It’s hard for me to talk about domestic violence, but not for the reasons you might think. Yeah, all the predictable reasons are there: Because...
Things look like they’re getting better in Ferguson now that the highway patrol have taken the lead in the area. Yesterday I wrote in passing...
The short answer is that I came home one night and he was in my bed. The much longer answer starts the day we moved...
As a lot of you guys know, when I was a kid, my mom was in and out of my life. One of those in...
I’ve only been fired once in my life. I was fourteen. The woman who fired me called me up the next month. The conversation went...
I don’t even think I addressed it when gay marriage became legal in California. Or when it became legal again. As it seems to go...
Oh man. That is a loaded topic. The thing about the mentally ill that I didn’t learn until this damage was done is that they...
From August 2011 to September 2012, I quit drinking caffeine. I basically spent an entire year underwater. I initially stopped because my therapist (who turned...
@Teddy_Picker: Well, I just got a handy while topless and driving* down Cesar E Chavez Blvd at 1 a.m. So I’d say this is one...
For my 12th birthday, my mom took me to a run down apartment block in the valley where a woman who pretended that spirits kept...
In America, when you’re on public health, and you finally manage to get a check-up appointment, you go no matter what. If you have to...
Is there a statute of limitations on forgery?* Either way, I have something to confess: In 2003 I falsified certain documents so that I could...
This is one of the custom blogs I do for my Facebook friends. I asked “I kind of want to blog about some event from...
This is one of the custom blogs I do for my Facebook friends. I asked “I kind of want to blog about some event from...
This is one of the custom blogs I do for my Facebook friends. I asked “I kind of want to blog about some event from...
TRIGGER WARNING: Disordered eating. This is one of the custom blogs I do for my Facebook friends. I asked “I kind of want to blog...
TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of child abuse, attempted murder, disordered eating, and inappropriate sexual advances on a minor (the minor being me, not me being the...
My grandma is moving to Wisconsin in the first week of October. My emotions are kind of all over the place. On the one hand,...
About 6 months after I hooked up with Ben I remember falling into a depression and being really bewildered by it. I couldn’t figure out...
Trigger warnings: racism, abuse, dickhole behavior This afternoon, I caught wind of the #fuckcispeople tag on twitter, I made my grandma-style rant re: the dangers...
I went to high school in the idyllic hamlet of Glendora, where local teacher Ken Bencomo was recently fired from St. Lucy’s Priory High School...
I have been obsessed with reading the Mansplained Tumblr lately, and today I was reminded of an incident I experienced in my own life. I...
I was 13 when I got kicked out of my house. Not the house I ended up sharing with my mom in an abusive tangle...
I’m probably the only person who pays such close attention to these things, but you may have notice that I had two updates on Thursday,...
Ben and I recorded about an hour of video today, and I’m slowly going through it trying to pull relevant clips. The original intention had...
It’s been almost 6 years since my undergraduate career ended, so I feel safe sharing this with you guys. It’s more a picture of my...
This was going to be Monday’s post, but since my friend Rhian passed away Sunday, I forwent a Monday post in favor of a goodbye...
Conrad Bain, the dad from Diff’rent Strokes (who also was one of the founders of the Actor’s Federal Credit Union) has died. In honor of...
Since we left Oregon on Dec. 30 in the morning, arrived in LA Dec. 31 in the morning, and only got a few hours sleep...
Yesterday I teased that I would tell you the epic tale of my personal worst Christmas ever. I believe I suggested that I was crying...
11:00 p.m. Marina shows up and we hang out for a little bit. Then I get to go on a WALK! to her car, which...
One time, I was having coffee with my beloved grandma, and she casually asked “Doesn’t Ben find you disgusting, with all that fat on you?”...
So when I was in college, I worked about 30 to 50 hours a week at 2 jobs and usually had a side hustle selling...
It’s almost midnight, Ben and I are leaving for vacation on Thursday morning, so I’ve been running around insisting that we do all the cleaning...
Ben pointed this out: Punk legend Henry Rollins totally looks like Macgyver (Richard Dean Anderson) Rawr. Although, have you ever noticed that Hank isn’t that...
No big. Just that I’m totally a hero… and maybe an almost accidental kid runner overer, but let’s not think about that. So I was...
Ok, it’s been about 6 months since this happened so the chances of her finding this seem somehow closer to zero now than it did...