Up From a Past: What I Owe To Maya Angelou
Just as there will always be people to tell you that you can’t do things, there will also be people who tell you that you...
Category: Commentary
What Does a Sexually Empowered Straight Man Look Like?
Because, to be honest, I don’t think I’ve ever met one. You guys have all heard this story before. When my dad gave me the...
Everybody Calm Down, Paid Menstrual Leave Isn’t Real -OR- Should Boring Non-Story Writers Get Shot Into Space?
The Atlantic is making news with this paid menstrual leave story, obviously it’s been a slow week for us all. For those of you concerned...
On Being a Risk Taker
Ben and I were talking about this the other day. He was comparing himself, an extremely risk averse person, to me and some other more...
It’s My Life, I’ll Get Raped if I Wanna!
Friend Tiffany asked me this the other day: Okay so I’ve been meaning to ask you to do a blog post about this for some...
Charisma Uniqueness Nerve And Talent – Can RuPaul Have Cunt?
Tuesday’s blog touched on RuPaul’s use of the anti-trans slur she-male, and my problem with the fight that ensued over its removal from the show....
Being Mean to People You Think Have Been Mean to People to Prove That Being Mean to People is Mean?
Lately I’ve been noticing that the Internet has a sort of waltz it does. 1. Somebody says or does something that someone or a group...
Feminine Appetites: What Keeps Us from Self-Care
I was just watching this TED Talk on intuitive eating… [ted id=1900] … and it reminded me that 80% of American girls have been on...
13 Common Misconceptions About Feminism
1. Feminists can’t ask for directions. Feminist National Conference Rule 347 subset J states that we can totally ask for directions if death is imminent....
Budweiser Can Eat My Mexican Asshole
I didn’t look for this. This was in front of a Niki Minaj video. I was still cussing at the screen well into the first...
Oh, You Got Fired for Being a Bigot? My Heart Bleeds for You.
Recently, a bigot lost his job. You may have heard about it. And, in typical liberal fashion, we feel badly for him. We say things...
It’s a Man’s World… As Usual
Friend Lura sent me this on Facebook the other day: Is the Oculus Rift Sexist? In the article, Microsoft researcher Dana Boyd asserts that virtual...
This Is A Joke, Right?
I’m a fucking trendsetter. Last April Fool’s day, I brought my own tampon game to the nation with the Hungry Man flavored Tampax. But now,...
An Argument for – and a Solution to – Christian Intolerance
We’ve all seen the news stories about religious institutions firing or refusing service to those of us they consider undesirable. Unwed mothers, gays, abortionists, non-monogamists...
Dead Enemies
Someone we all hated very much died on Wednesday. I have been extremely grateful to see the world go from thinking that Fred Phelps maybe...
College Students of Color and Other Oxymorons I Have Been
Today I was introduced to the I Too, Am Harvard campaign. Ostensibly a marketing project for her upcoming play of the same title, Harvard sophomore...
In Defense of the M/M Romance
Can we talk about M/M romance for a second? I’ve been reviewing a lot of this type of erotica, mostly because there seems to be...
Alternative Medicine Redux
For my 12th birthday, my mom took me to a run down apartment block in the valley where a woman who pretended that spirits kept...
Valentines is Just Another Cold Day
I know, you’re either tired of hearing about Valentines, or you’re tired of hearing about people who hate Valentines. It’s the same every year. Ben...
When I Grow Up I Want to Be Easy on the Eyes
Hulu’s been showing the same two Weight Watcher’s commercials for about a month now, and I finally listened to one of them: If you’re not...
Celebrity Rapist Role Call: Bill Cosby
The boyfriend sent me a link to this Gawker article about how everybody’s favorite TV fantasy dad, Bill Cosby, is totally a serial rapist. I...
Deep and Serious Thoughts About Kid Fucker Woody Allen
Trigger warning: Frank discussions of incestuous rape, and descriptions of sexual boundary violations of a child. My friend Krista asked me this today: “I’m curious...
Phillip Seymore Hoffman and the Glory of the Young, Dead Addict
Since the announcement of his death, I’ve heard the fairly standard “so sad,” “too soon,” “such talent,” rigmarole. And now that we know he died...
Atheist Domain Names
AntiNoSwearLeage.com – If you’re an old punk who refuses to be told whose name you can and can not take in vain. GOD DAMMIT. InDogWeTrust.com...
Dear White Boyfriend
The hashtag #DearWhiteBF was making the rounds on twitter this evening, and it seemed like the majority of the white boyfriends in question were complete...
Holiday Repost: MLK Day 2013 Twitter Hall of Fame
We’ll see if I do another MLK hall of fame this year. It depends on the quality of the tweets. Anyway, here’s a repost from...
Twink Wolf
@Marinaisgo The amazing homoeroticism of Teen Wolf. http://t.co/aAnYW9JtTW Also, do you think the younger generation is gonna be way more… — Aldo C. (@aldoxcab) January...
Complimenting the Enemy
Friend and real-life blogger Heina is doing a Compliment a Day in 2014 project, which reminded me of the time I did my own compliment...
Notes on White Privilege
I had Monday’s blog already written out. It was going to be about the time I complimented my alcoholic mother every day for a month,...
New Year New You! Psych.
I’ve been trying to write a huge diatribe against the concept of a “new me” verses an “old me” all week, but I haven’t felt...
Why Natasha Leggero Is Right and SpaghettiOs Is Still Wrong
I was going to write something smart and compelling about Natasha Leggaro and the SpaghettiOs champions who took to the Internet to call her a...
Disagreeing with Celebrities
I’ve just finished Dan Savage’s book The Commitment, and there’s a part where he says that, owing to the fact that children need stability, parents...
Oil Companies Should Not Be On Social Media
Fucking Exxon Mobil. I was having a nice Monday night with the boyfriend. Watching Deep Space Nine and calculating Odo’s approximate humanoid age (if you...
Lady Detectives Need Fuck Too
Aubible recently had it’s Black Friday sale, which amounted to 400 titles all reduced to under $5 each. Being the massive audiobook fiend that I...
Ten Years
Doug Stanhope has a track called Drambuie on his album Building a Bridge to Nowhere in which he acts out a version of a conversation...
You Are Now Reading the Blog of Someone Who Has Been on Television. I Know. I Feel It Too.
As you probably know from yesterday’s blog, at 10 pm last night Peter Paras and I were on Open Source with Leon Krauze to talk...
Be Nice Because You Never Know Who Your Rapist Will Be
This is just a rant, so if you were planning on killing yourself today, skip this post because, to be honest, I will not be...
BuzzFeed Fires Their Old Guy
Today I read this Gawker article by Mark Duffy, the oldest employee to ever get fired from BuzzFeed, a job he claims to have taken...
Veterans Day Repost: My Personal Experience with Race Rage
Happy Veterans Day! I know you’re going to miss me. So while I’m gone, check out the first episode of this web series from 2009...
That’s Not Funny: Why I Joke About My Abusive Childhood
TRIGGER WARNING: Rape, antelope rape, AIDS-rabies I have a really dark sense of humor, and it’s gotten me in trouble. A lot. Frequently the only...
How to Survive in a Corporate Environment: A Very Funny List of Jokes
SUCK UP: To anybody who can help you with this project. Only think in terms of the current project. Feel free to deride, even abuse...
Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Fat. There Are Much Better Reasons.
First of all: Thanks to Heina at Skepchick for blogging about weight stigma awareness week, or I would have had absolutely no idea I was...
Boundary Checks
So I’ve been wanting to talk about this for awhile now, ever since last year when my grandma’s gross ex boyfriend tried to creep on...
“I Wish I Could Just Be Happy” – Cassidy Campbell
First of all: Transgender people in crisis should contact The Trevor Project’s 24/7 Lifeline at 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386), Trevor Chat, the Trevor Projects’ online messaging service,...
Labor Day Repost: Rape Tuesday
TRIGGER WARNING: Rape, Camille Paglia This is a repost from Sept. 9, 2008 that I originally wrote in response to a forum troll who claimed...
The Heterosexual Questionnaire
The Questionnaire was developed by Dr. Martin Rochlin in 1972 to illustrate the kind of nonesense that gay people dealt with on a regular basis....
Our Hairs Ourselves
So about 6 months ago, my friend asked me this question on twitter: @Teddy_Picker: @Marinaisgo Have you ever written a blog on female body hair...
Fuck White People: My Personal Experience with Race Rage
Trigger warnings: racism, abuse, dickhole behavior This afternoon, I caught wind of the #fuckcispeople tag on twitter, I made my grandma-style rant re: the dangers...
My Memories of Glendora are Mostly About Bigotry
I went to high school in the idyllic hamlet of Glendora, where local teacher Ken Bencomo was recently fired from St. Lucy’s Priory High School...
Michelle Obama: America’s Lunchlady
Last Tuesday, First Lady Michelle Obama spoke to the National Council of La Raza about how Latino kids are too fat. I heard about it...