I don’t usually go in for this sort of thing. Why do you need a special day or a collection of commodities to tell your partner that you love them? Can’t everyday be Valentines Day to the lovers of the world without all the heteronormative bullshit and assumptions that single people aren’t as fulfilled as partnered people? Can we just do that please?
My relationship with Ben has never been the kind of thing that requires large expenditures of resources or intense gestures to feel valid, and that’s how we prefer it. But this year’s been hard emotionally and financially. Ben’s been there for me through the worst of it all, and I’d like to think I’ve been there for him too (you’ll have to ask him, I don’t feel comfortable grading myself.)
So, I want to take this opportunity to say that my sweet boyfriend is an amazing man, an incredibly creative, intelligent and patient partner and one of the more hilarious people I know. Thank you for being my best friend and a damn good lay.
I can be short sighted and angry; I don’t listen and my values tend to be fucked up around superficial material goods. But you know that and you get in bed with me every night anyway. How could I not love you?
Blatant fameworing, or thoughtful love note? You decide.